Yes, I know that some marriages end because of abuse and other extreme circumstances. “Isn’t marriage about love”, you ask. Sometimes. “You don’t know my situation”, you say. True. But I lived through the emotional and financial pain of two divorces as a child, and I’ve been married to the same person for more than 23 years, so I know plenty. Am I telling you not to get a divorce? Of course not. I am telling you that divorce can wreck your finances and your spouse’s finances.